THE
BEGINNING
Ever heard of the phrase ‘’confidence
trickster’’ before? If your answer to this question is no, then it simply means
someone who cheats people by gaining their trust. I have always been hearing
incessant ‘’funny’’ stories about how some people were duped of heavy sum of
money without a fight. I found it very hard to believe why some people could
not read in between the lines. As faith would have it, I fell in the hands of
one of these people who are currently of interest and it was then that I
realized that it was not about reading in between the lines but reading what is
behind those smiles.
HOW
TO IDENTIFY CONFIDENCE TRICKSTERS
Just like how it is very difficult to
identify a Christian and a Church goer just by using facial discretion, it is
equally far more difficult to identify a confidence trickster by simply his or
her looks. They come in angelic form and character and tell you all sort of
implausible stories to put veracity in their utopian arguments. They capitalize
on your ignorance to preach about things which they personally have no idea of.
For instance, they would promise you juicy jobs, fat salaries, exquisite and
modern cars which they themselves are yet to feast their eyes on them.
But the question you should ask yourself is this ‘’Is the
person standing in front of you better off than what he wants to offer me? You
cannot tell me that you would give me food to eat whilst you are hungry
yourself. Again, why would someone out of nowhere find so much drooling interest
in you to the extent that he would be willing to better your life within the
split of a second and of cos with a magic want? As the saying goes ‘’Rome was
not built in a day’’ conversely, no one has a magic wand that can transform you
into a state of ‘’Rockefelleric’’ richness in just a day, a few weeks or a few
months. It never happens and actually never happens; so if someone comes to you
and his argument and his speech follows this line of thought or argument, throw
on your brake lights for all you know he might be a confidence trickster.
People have this notion that thieves and
this juncture of time the word ‘trickster’ seems more appropriate come in
provocative dressing but for confidence tricksters, it is rather the exception
and the opposite is but rather true. I am in by no way saying that one should
dress indecently to show our innocent. What I mean rather is that as it has
always been and would always be, confidence trickster come in neat and
presentable figures that mimic professions just to gain your trust and your
possession. Don’t be forced to believe that their ‘’professional dressing’’
means that they are innocent; however, the fact is this; if they dress like rascals
you would not be ready to listen to them or better still shun them. So instead
of concentrating on the dressing, concentrate more on what he is saying and the
‘’implausible’’ things he has to offer and it is then that you can bastardize
their argument and then unveil their true self like how it is done to the New
Year’s Masquerades.
DEALING
WITH CONFIDENCE TRICKSTERS
In order to deal with confidence tricksters,
one has to employ the tactics of the proverbial Thomas and subject strangers
who ‘’passionately’’ want to help us to a series of arguments and also viewing
what they say in the correct spectacle. For instance, if someone out of the
blue sends you an e-mail and say that he has an ‘’imaginary’’ amount of money
somewhere and because of whatever reason wants to transfer it into your account
and then you transfer it back to his account, ask him ‘’how he saw your e-mail
address and profile. Further, you can ask him if he has no friend who can help
him in what he wants you to do for him. This is because if he was a good man,
at least he could have gotten a friend, a family member or a sympathizer who
would help him without a sweat.
You can equally ask him why he suddenly
wants to give you that job offer to you, a stranger, when he has brothers and
sisters who are in dire need to jobs, cars, laptops and all other related
accoutrements.
You can equally push further and invite a
third party and if they say ‘’don’t tell anyone’’ then reply to them ’’then
don’t tell me anymore’’ because relationships or offers that starts with
‘’don’t tell anyone’’ more often than not leads to ‘’I should have been wiser’’
or ‘’first fool no be fool.’’
If they tell you to give them your credit
card, laptop or phone for whatever reason without allowing you first to do what
they want to do their self then tell them that you respect your privacy and do
not want to sell it for even the world.
MY
EXPERIENCE
My past experience has shown me that no
manna would come from Heaven unless you plant it yourself. No one can help you
either than yourself and therefore instead of relying on a ‘’magic wand’’
rather rely on hard work because it has been tried, tested and has stood the
test of time. Right now, if someone tells me that he can offer me a good job
offer somewhere I would tell him that ‘’tell me how to make a good job
proposal’’
THE
END
Written by: Joseph Yaw Frimpong
source: iNewsGh
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